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Divorce is a horrible nasty sounding word which nobody likes to hear as it brings back bad memories and feelings whenever we hear it. Divorce certainly lives up to its name. D for disastrous, disruptive, disturbing, disappointing, disagreeing, dismissing, dissolving, dividing etc.

Divorce however is much more common these days as more and more couples file for divorce. A divorce can be very distressing as everything has to be taken into consideration especially if there are children involved. Divorce can effect children badly. They may become withdrawn or disruptive at school. Although divorce may be the answer for the parents, divorce is a very difficult situation for a child to adjust to.

After living with both parents it can be so dramatic for them to all of a sudden have only one parent around them. Rules and priorities may change so much that the child feels as though their whole world has been turned upside down. This is when a child can become very argumentative and wants everything their own way. You need to see things from a child’s point of view and put yourselves in their place and then review the situation.

For older children you will be able to talk and discuss matters but for the younger ones who don’t understand they will be much harder to reason with and pacify. However, they say that time is a great healer and you will need to be very patient during the process.

Divorce can happen to anyone at any time. Divorce can also happen at any age. Whether you are young or old it is just as difficult to deal with and you will need to be strong to survive a divorce.

A divorce can be very traumatic when deciding which items will go with whom especially if things have been bought between you or things given to you both from relatives or friends and as wedding presents, anniversary presents, birthday and Christmas presents.

It can be very difficult deciding which things would be better with whom as you will probably still stay in contact with most of each others friends who will no doubt visit both of you at some time during the future in your new abodes.

Divorce proceedings do take time to finalise so you will both need to be patient until things get resolved. It is bet to sort things amicably if you can as the divorce courts can be harsh and impersonal and also costly.

Divorced couples may find it difficult to re-enter the so-called singles market again as times may have changed over the years since they went out. Divorced couples may also not want to run the risk of bumping into their former lover or even their ex-husbands associates when they go out.

It will be very difficult to avoid everyone from your past and sooner or later you will probably bump into someone who you wish you hadn’t. You will need to keep your cool in this situation and act confidently and calmly. Once you have done this once you will know how to react in the future. There are many divorce clubs that you could join and also divorce advice is available on-line.

Why do so many marriages fail? What has changed to make couples decide to separate or divorce so quickly and at the first sign of stress within a marriage? Jenny Clair is the editor of Marriage-Divorce-Separation.com an article based web site exploring the human side of marriage breakdowns, divorce and separation situations. Divorce and separation is never easy so before taking that giant leap why not explore some of the issues first.

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Do you ever wonder when to discover best friend gift ideas and restore or recharge your comradeship? Chums are not always best friends and as much as you tell them how much you care, on occasion it really helps to give a best friend unique gift to your intended just to reveal, “You are worth a little extra.”

Do you ever need to have your batteries “re-loaded”, or you may need a boost to your self-confidence. You might be facing a very frightening situation–like turning another year older with a BIG zero behind the digit–and need a steady and solid presence.

How about having a totally attentive ear to vent your stress to and get responses, but only if it is required. On a more enjoyable note, you may want to take a planned getaway and deep conversation, watching the birds and catching up on the day. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to find–and then hold on to–that special person, the one that fits these needs, plus much more!

If you not sleep-walking, we’re talking about best friends! It is all so important to identify and value one of the greatest unique gifts on our earth–best friends! They are truly rare and can save you literally hundreds of dollars in hair replacements from being pulled out. Once identified, this person can serve as “consultant” on everything from kids, betrothed, religion and social topics.

Now, it is also important to realize that these best friends are a trusty parachute and resource, and not to be taken for granted. You have a responsibility to preserve them.

Make sure to respect not only their efforts, but also their unique viewpoint when you ask for their opinion. Treat your best friends like the priceless gem they are, and insure their safety. After all, it’s hard to discover and keep good friends–much less best friends.

Finding a great best friend gift is always a great notion. Best friends are great to talk with into the dark hours of the night. Just a phone call away your best friend is an awesome resource to call upon. It is like they say, “A best friend does not get you out of the slammer, they are sitting on the bench in the cell next to you.” Click Here for all your “unique best friend gifts”.

On the day you stand together as Bride and Groom to take your wedding vows, you will also have a Wedding Officiant with you. For marriage vows to be truly memorable, you need just the right person at the altar with you, a wedding officiant willing to create the perfect ceremony that captures your personalities and beliefs.

Standing together at the Altar is very much an altered state. Some brides and some grooms can’t remember their wedding ceremony after all is said and done. Some laugh nervously, some weep emotionally, some wait to speak, some pray they will be able to speak when the time to speak arrives.

Each year over sixty couples will find their perfect wedding officiant in Rev. Ema Drouillard as she becomes an integral part of making a very special day even more unforgettable.

“Just a couple of quick “I do’s!” will do. We would like our ceremony to be meaningful, memorable. Not too long and not too short.” So we begin the inquiry as to what will be said at the altar, what will be meaningful. We discuss belief, faith and practice.

The tone of the ceremony whether; religious, non-religious, spiritual, non-denominational or inter-faith. What traditional elements or cultural traditions may be important to join together?

We speak about what will take place within the ceremony itself. Would they each like to speak their vows to each other or would they rather take vows by responding? Would they like to write their own vows? Will they exchange rings with one another? What rites may be integrated; the unity candle, wine ceremony, grain ceremony or flower rite?

Will the guest be incorporated into the ceremony or witness the ceremony? Will there be a reading in the ceremony or a song sung? Would they like a dove or butterfly release as part of their ceremony, or fireworks?

What becomes abundantly evident is that to have a wedding officiant fully engaged, open to suggestions, understanding and supportive through out the whole process will make all the difference in your memories. An officiant willing to incorporate whatever you want, religion or no religion, spiritual or non-denominational, in line with your belief, understanding exactly what you are talking about and open to the fact. A Wedding Officiant with the agenda to have your ceremony reflect the uniqueness of you.

Add an eloquent speaker, with a great presence and stress can actually be eliminated on your wedding day as you stand together at your altar. Together you can create a whole ambiance and have a glorious time, sharing the memories for a lifetime.

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If you’ve made the efforts to complete an entire week of romance
with your spouse, you may or may not have been able to come up
with your own ideas. If you find that you haven’t been bit with
the romance inspiration bug on your own, you can plan several
weeks of romance for you and your spouse with a few more
suggestions. Once you’ve implemented the ideas that work for you
and you’ve been doing them for a while, you are sure to be
inspired with your own thoughts and ideas.

Start your week off on Sunday and keep in mind that it is a
wonderful day to remain low-key and enjoy time alone with your
spouse. Take a long walk without cell phones, iPods or any other
distracting devices. Just you and your spouse should take a walk
and enjoy each other’s company. Hold hands while you walk. You
can also spend the day in your bedroom, keep the curtains drawn
and light some candles. You are in charge of whatever else
happens there. On the other hand, you can spend the entire day
in bed with the curtains open and read the paper to each other
or watch movies all day. Eat your meals in bed. (Making love is
definitely an option as well!)

On Monday, wake up with the birds. Enjoy a morning together
without the normal rush you typically go through. Go to a music
store and buy a romantic CD to present to your spouse. Enjoy it
together before going to bed. Mondays are also great for calling
in sick to repeat an exceptional Sunday again.

Tuesdays are great days to wake up early and begin making love
with your spouse. On another Tuesday, try reading something you
both find to be inspirational aloud. As an alternative activity
for particularly busy Tuesdays, send your spouse loving thoughts
by using mental telepathy. You don’t think it works? Try it and
you’ll see.

Wednesdays are always difficult days of the week because they
are only the halfway mark to the anticipated weekend. Do
something different like taking a class together, give each
other massages (or just give him or her a massage) or have
dinner together. In fact, pack a picnic lunch, meet him or her
at work and either eat there or leave to eat at a park or even
in the car.

You must remember that Thursday is always gift day. When you are
at a store and you spot something your spouse might enjoy or you
know he or she will love, you should start picking those items
up and storing them for Thursdays. You should never run out of
gifts this way and you must never miss gift day!

Friday is always a day to look forward to! When your spouse
comes home from work, have ‘your’ song playing on the radio. If
you took dance classes together on Wednesday, they will come in
handy! Draw him or her a bath and share it together.

Saturday is your day to be creative. Think about his or her
favorite artist (music, painting, sculpture, etc.) and buy them
some of their work. Make love, but make up some fun rules like
you can’t open your eyes or you can’t use your hands. Make a
decadent dessert and feed it to each other. Start all over again
when you wake up Sunday morning!

There are thousands of polygamists in the Mountain West. Joseph Smith, Jr., the Mormon Prophet, started it all. (To his credit, he did not start polyandry for the women, only polygany for the men. Polygamy includes both terms.)

His first wife, Emma, was against it. (So were many church leaders and even more wives.) She said, “God did not say that!” She was angry! (Well, she didn’t say it exactly like that, but near enough.)

Her son, Joseph Smith III, denied and tried to prove that his father did not practice polygamy. That didn’t help. The ex-wives he interviewed in Utah after his father’s death evidently all lied to him. He insisted that his father never was a polygamist. (Sounds good to me.)

The practice of polygamy poured so much misery on the Mormon Church that they dumped it. The Federal Government had the top leaders hiding in Mexico or in the basement of one of their homes. Polygamy could only continue to cause misery to the point that the church would not be able to function to its full destiny which is to save every man, woman, and child on the planet Earth, living or dead. Utah would still be a territory.

The polygamists are now booted out of the Mormon Church whenever or wherever found. Polygamy is bad fruit.

Present-day polygamist say the Mormon Church was wrong in dumping a fundamental belief that a person had to be a polygamist to get really good real estate in the Celestial Kingdom. They say about the banning of polygamy in the Mormon Church: “God did not say that!” (Well, not exactly but close enough.)

The Mormon’s have three Kingdoms of Glory guaranteed by the atonement of Jesus Christ.

The really bad go to the Telestial Kingdom, the good go to the Terrestrial Kingdom, and the Mormons and children under eight go to the Celestial Kingdom. The few left are Sons of Perdition. They go to hell to live with Second Mate Satan and his mutinous crew of angels.

It doesn’t end there. You could bounce to the highest degree of the Celestial Kingdom by being a polygamist. That was before the Mormon Church banned the practice. Now to avoid being a servant in the Celestial Kingdom, you must simply be married in a Mormon Temple.

The Mormons are building lots of temples which they hope will keep operating into the Millennium so that living and dead can all go to the top of the Celestial Kingdom. All living ordinances such as baptism and marriage are performed in the temples for the dead (Unless you are Jewish. Then you must have special authorization from the family to do any ordinance, living or for the dead. Israel got angry about the Mormons saving their dead for them. They like to do things like that for themselves.)

The Mormons will not be happy in the Celestial Kingdom unless you are there with them.

That’s why you see so many young men walking around the face of the earth in white shirt and tie. There are young women too, but they don’t have such a stressful dress code. Young men or young women, they want you to know that God wants you right up there at the top. From this experience most of these missionaries become wonderful monogamous parents.

First God separates the sheep from the goats. Mormons then separate the sheep from the sheep.

Anyway, polygamy is causing more and more problems because of what Mormons call, “Unrighteous Dominion.”

The polygamists are now considered by Mormons and Non-Mormons to be living in cults. A typical cult (there are a number of them) has a dictator who decides how to divide up the young women. The young men are shooed out of the clan so that there are more young women for more old men. These young women are not educated less they become wise and bug out from the clan. They are prisoners. They have no say in their destiny. They can not refuse marriage to an old “holy man.” (I got this simplistic view from the newspapers. Don’t blame me!)

The State of Utah is fighting the polygamist. The Utah Attorney General wants the worst of them in jail. Some polygamist men are nice to their women. He can’t put all of them in jail because there are too many of them. One problem is that the polygamist cults are breeding schizophrenics and people with both physical and mental disorders by the dozens. The major problems are caused by inbreeding. This inbreeding must stop.

My father was always afraid of inbreeding. He saw lots of that in Idaho when he was young and was afraid to death of it. When two of his grandchildren got married to each other, he went into a “whizfanggle!” (This is a new word for you folks that have grandchildren marrying each other. It was a niece and nephew in my case. The marriage flopped.)

We moved to Idaho two years ago. We learned this: Never say anything bad about anybody. If you do, you will be talking to his or her cousin, aunt, grandparent, nephew, or such. Everybody in town will be mad at you. And they are not polygamist. What would things be like if they were?

“Safe Houses” are being setup throughout the west for runaway polygamist brides. Some of these brides are very young in their early teens. They need to be schooled, clothed, and gainfully employed. They also have to be protected from the cults they ran from. Some former polygamists run these safe houses. God Bless Them!

The cults are secretive and sometimes deadly. If you see a polygamist man and you are a young woman, run, run, run!

That’s what Emma Smith did after husband was murdered–and she was right.

She knew that God is not stupid and that even prophet husbands can make mistakes. Anyway, that is how I see it.

Copyright©John T. Jones, Ph.D.2005

John T. Jones, Ph.D. (tjbooks@hotmail.com)is a retired R&D engineer and VP of a Fortune 500 company. He is author of detective & western novels, nonfiction (business, scientific, engineering), poetry, etc. Former editor of international trade magazine. Jones is Executive Representative of International Wealth Success.

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